Filling the gap
Previously called Missing Pieces, Lost and Found and now David Lomas Investigates, this New Zealand produced documentary series not only helps people find missing relatives across the globe, but uncovers cultural identities and lost family heritage, helping people fill in the gaps they know they’ve had, often for decades.
One show last year had me particularly emotional when a 35-year-old woman discovered the story of the mother she was separated from as a baby. Tragically the French mother had committed suicide 10 years previously after being unable to cope with the grief of not being able to find her daughter for all those years. Her death had also led to the breakdown of wider family relationships in France.
The meeting of the NZ-raised daughter with her long-lost French family was deeply emotional for all sides and ultimately brought significant healing to the wider family in unimaginable ways. What was lost was found, what was broken was healed. The gap had been filled.
I cried like a baby. For a long time. Fortunately it was dark and I hadn’t walked my dog yet so a long meander around our neighbourhood was required to help me find some space to reflect.
At its heart, this TV series and its international colleagues (I’ve watched both the Australian and British equivalents) is all about people finding a missing part of their lives that just can’t be filled in any other way.
Human nature would appear to reveal that the strong desire to know who we are and where we come from is somewhat insatiable, a cry of our heart. I would go as far as to say that we are designed to know our identity, and on the flip side our designer wants us to know who we are.
Perhaps this is why Psalm chapter 139 is one of the most well-known psalms in the Bible. It provides us with the pathway to finding connection we crave; it provides the most comprehensive answer to the question, ‘Who am I?’
The psalmist writes in Psalm chapter 139, verses 13-14, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well.” Combined with all the other verses of this psalm, the most beautiful picture of our creation and identity can be drawn. While we have earthly parents, we ultimately have a heavenly creator, a Father, who knew us before we even knew ourselves.
David Lomas Investigates is a wonderful celebration of life, but its stories are often mired in tragedy because of the broken nature of humanity and the reality of adversity. Not every story has a happy ending.
Psalm chapter 139 does provide us with a pathway to a happy ending, every single time, should we choose to embrace the bigger picture of who we are and where we come from. I know from my own experience and the experiences of those I’ve ministered to, that finding our identity as a son or daughter of the living God makes the most profound difference to our lives.
Knowing our identity in God is the most significant way to find the kind of life in this world that Jesus said we can have. In John chapter 10, verse 10 Jesus says, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Note the life to the full part; this is the deep sense of knowing who we are despite the imperfections that surround us in this world.
Because of what I see and experience in this world I believe that the ability to find our identity is perhaps the most significant tool we can have in our evangelism toolbox. Just watch the end of David Lomas Investigates to see the difference it makes in this world, let alone the difference finding our bigger identity makes to our eternity.
You Say by Lauren Daigle
Artist Lauren Daigle made a significant contribution to our understanding of our identity in God when she released her song, You Say, in July 2018. The lyrics speak directly to the issue of identity, with the chorus summing it up:
You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
You say I am held when I am falling short
When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours
And I believe, oh I believe
What You say of me
When we know, in the deepest part of our heart, that that we are loved, that we are strong, that we are held and that we belong to God, this can be the most life-transforming and comforting emotion that we have the opportunity to embrace. I should know, I have had to learn this lesson over many years, and am still learning it.
One of the most sung songs in the world aptly summarises our ability to end the search for our identity when we open our heart to God. John Newton wrote in his 1779 poem, “I once was lost but now am found, was blind but now I see.”
May we know the peace that passes human understanding that comes with knowing who we are and where we come from, and may we take that message to all of those seeking to find what they have lost.
Grant Harris is a reformed banker who has been the Senior Pastor of Windsor Park Baptist Church in Auckland, New Zealand, for eleven years. Grant’s passionate about seeing people catch a glimpse of who they are in Christ and living out the difference that makes. He’s tried living according to the patterns of this world and found that those patterns came up short. He’s still a work-in-progress and always will be. You can contact Grant at firstname.lastname@example.org.